“Always start a relationship by asking: Do I have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to this person? Is my caring conditional? Am I planning to change the person? Do I need this person to help me make up for a deficiency in myself? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, leave the person alone. He or she is better off without you.” Leo Buscaglia

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Last year I read „The Power of Full Engagement“ by Jim Loehr for the first time. And it started to slowly open my eyes that I have been focusing on the wrong thing for a long time: Managing and maximizing time use. Everybody tells us to manage our time better, but this is not the most important key to improving our productivity. Continue reading “Why managing energy not time is the secret to productivity”

Setting goals is a pretty fun activity, it is all about possibility and dreams. Achieving our goals, however, can be tough, especially when we lose sight of progress. If we reach for great goals, there will be obstacles that we need to overcome. And there is one big mental trap that we can run into that can keep us from believing in and reaching for our goals. Business coach Dan Sullivan calls it „the gap“. Continue reading “Are you caught in the gap?”

I don’t know why this is so deeply embedded into our culture, but we take pride in achieving things our own. The self-made-man is such a big myth we are told about every day, that we actually do believe it. We think we need to do everything on our own. We think that if we do not get ahead on our own, we are weak. This makes no sense. Continue reading “Why it pays to become interdependent instead of trying to do everything alone”