What should you change about yourself to feel that you are finally enough? Nothing. Enough is not a place we arrive at. It is the place from which we start on our adventures.
Perfectionism makes everything worse
Trying to be perfect to be finally good enough does not work. Perfectionism is bad, because it usually is just a way to protect our real selves from being seen. It is an attempt to prevent us from being judged. It doesn’t work. Instead it is driven by shame, that as we are now, we are not good enough. The danger with perfectionism is that it fuels constant dissatisfaction. Because the target line is constantly moving, we never reach that point where we are supposed to feel satisfied.
Start from a place of worthiness
Instead we can start from this place of being enough. Author Brené Brown describes it in her book “The Gifts of Imperfection”:
Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think: “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.” It’s going to bed at night thinking: “Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
Starting from worthiness enables growth
One major misconception many people hold is that being satisfied and feeling worthy with where you are at in life right stops your growth.
But actually the opposite is the case. When you are satisfied with what you have and secure with who you are, you are much more likely to continue exploring. And that will lead you to new places. So don’t hustle for worthiness, claim worthiness.
What do you think about perfectionism?